try listening

I write to you in a current state of anger and confusion, so consider the fact that my judgement may be a little impaired with what I am about to write.  People do not know how to read emotions or have genuine concern for you if they ask you what is wrong and do not really want to hear the answer.  I understand that there are different types of personalities, but in all honesty, those of you who do not know how to listen: suck.  Think about all your friends who wish they could confide in you but can't because you are so caught up in your life that you don't realize that other people may want to talk about themselves for once.  Boo hoo I get it that things are never perfect, but try to see that the world does not revolve around one person.  It revolves around the masses, the people who often are never heard are usually those that are the most oppressed and are dealing with the most issues.  Think about where you stand : are you heard but despised or considerate and invisible?

Impressions

Something I have learned from analyzing my peers is that people who are secure with themselves don't try so hard.  Insecurity is a funny thing, it makes us as human beings, more vicious, defensive, sluttier and obviously coming off to our peers that we are trying to overcompensate for whatever it is that is held over us in our mind.  Truth be told, we are our best friends and worst enemies; this is not a new concept that we have the power to build or tear ourselves down.  What is new is the sense of empowerment that comes from this: if we filter out the things in our lives (people or habits) that make us insecure, we will become weaker individuals.  Instead we need to embrace the fear of rejection and failure dead on to feel the burn of it and realize what we were so afraid of was something that we can overcome.  Silence is powerful, it gives control of a situation and an air of mystery that makes an intriguing individual desirable.  Don't try too hard, don't push yourself on someone because if they are worth knowing you, they will appreciate your subtlety and security.  Those who are desperate are never truly respected, because most of the time they don't respect themselves.  

Valentine's Day

Love is in the air!!! Just not where I breathe apparently but that is ok!  If you are single and not feeling the love on this LOVEly holiday, keep reading.  Today is not just a day for couples, or at least it shouldn't be!  We need to take back this holiday because it is also about friendship and what love really is-not just ooey gooey crud.  Make this holiday special and send all your friends notes or little presents letting them know how much you love them!  Also, let your parents know how much they mean to you: do some chores, cook dinner, make them a poem.  Think outside the box of chocolates when you are Valentine's day shopping. WARNING- Avoid eye contact with couples on this day because when together, they are on full blast valentine's drugged up love, very dangerous for our self esteem and gag reflex.  I have learned from experience to steer clear until February 20th because by then they are done talking about all their love and happiness and blah blah bleh!  

Hope these tips helped!  We single people need to stick together, no pun intended!!